“Don’t depend too much on any one in this world. Because even your shadow leaves you when you’re in darkness.” Ibn Taimiyah
In psychology term, it is known Dependent personality disorder (DPD) which is one of the most frequently diagnosed personality disorders. It causes feelings of helplessness, submissiveness, a need to be taken care of and for constant reassurance, and an inability to make everyday decisions without an excessive amount of advice and reassurance from others.
This personality disorder occurs equally in men and women and usually becomes apparent in young adulthood or later as important adult relationships form.
People with DPD become emotionally overdependent on other people and spend great effort trying to please others. People with DPD tend to display needy, passive, and clinging behavior, and have a fear of separation.
Other common characteristics of this personality disorder include:
- Difficulty making decisions without the input or presence of others
- Being overly passive or submissive
- An inability to disagree with or argue with others
- Allowing or preferring other people to handle your personal business
- Extreme fear of abandonment, especially by loved ones
- Intense sadness and lethargy when a loved one leaves or after a breakup
- A willingness to do anything in your power, including putting up with abuse or mistreatment or doing dangerous or illegal things, to please a valued person or keep them near you
- Having trouble starting projects or doing things alone
- Constantly seeking relationships and cultivating them in order to not be alone, no matter how unhealthy the relationship may be.
Some risk factors that might contribute to the development of this disorder include:
- Having a history of neglect
- Having an abusive upbringing
- Being in a long-term, abusive relationship
- Having overprotective or authoritarian parents
- Having a family history of anxiety disorders
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